ive always got some new plan on how to make life better. lately ive been purging all electronic toys and buying hazel toys that she can use her imagination with, along with creating activities to do out of natural materials. birthday and christmas will be fun!
but this week ive come across information on how to become a minimalist. it sounds like an awesome idea! but hard to achieve at the extreme level that some people are. these people have 5 shirts, 5 pairs of pants, and a couple pairs of shoes. usually no dressers in the bedroom or side tables in the living rooms. minimizing these things are proven to relieve stress b/c you have less maintenance, cleaning, and just liberating to live simply!
im realizing the more i read there is no right way to become a minimalist. do what works for you. it doesnt mean dressing or living like you are poor, but if you buy something new, toss out something old. stop letting things pile up. i will probably downsize some of my decor even though i dont have much to start with. and as many of you know, i love shopping and clothes.... especially for hazel. today i was able to purge more than half my clothes and shoes. i dont know how i will do this with hazels stuff though. im just starting small and moving my life into simplicity. i think i will fall in between a organizer and minimalist. i am doing this to mostly get organized and yes to feel like i dont always NEED NEED NEED.
since my last pregnancy loss, my shopping has been out of control. ive been justifying hazel having so many new things b/c we are not having to pay for another child in daycare and other expenses. its getting me into trouble! i was reading a blog and it was talking about people shopping b/c it gives you a high and then you just keep doing it to feel good. and it does feel so good :) i love fashion shows after a day of shopping! addiction!
so im trying to be realistic... i know i cannot NOT shop for a year like these people commit to. but i am making a conscience effort to shop less and more with a purpose when i do. purge a lot of things that we have not used for a long time. and live a little simpler in little ways. i may be back in a month and say i totally failed, but at least im making the effort at something positive.
Friday, September 20, 2013
Friday, September 6, 2013
Holshousers-party of 3!
so the last time i posted (not the one i posted 5 minutes ago of course) i was pretty devastated to end my days of pregnancy on a bad note. after a few weeks of more soul searching and many, many discussions, i am feeling really good about the idea of hazel being our one and only child (here on earth). i feel like there are so many reasons in our lives to be done. obviously recurrent miscarriage being the main reason, but im also realizing its very important to my mental health. my main priority currently is getting all my anxiety and depression under control that has taken over me the past 10 years. trying to conceive makes me more anxious and depressed, i hold back from working out which is really important, and i cannot take certain medication (or i dont want to) if i could possibly be pregnant. ive also realized just having a child makes me so much more anxious and stressed some days. adding another for me would probably cause me to take my stress out on hazel or tyson, which makes none of our lives better. why would i want to do that? plus things that make me feel great are traveling, being outdoors and on adventures with my fam, and my relaxation time i get each night when haze goes to bed! some people can do all these things with 2 or more kids.... me, not so much. i was really hard on myself through the baby stage and im not sure its a great idea to go back. im realizing how each person is different in what they can handle. honestly im proud of myself for realizing what is best for my family and me and not making a choice mostly based just on what everyone else does. of course there is still part of me that wants to be able to handle a big family, but i cant and thats okay. ill spoil all my nieces and nephews and hazel will be close with them. we are still very upset about all our losses but keep feeling like maybe its happening for a reason. maybe i needed more time to think and i was so masked by the need to get pregnant again and show my body i can do it. maybe not. i really dont know. but i do know that right now im very happy with our decision to have our little family of 3!
21 months
so yeah im not great on updating all the new things haze is doing to my blog like i mean to. i think about it often but dont take time to sit down and do it. honestly im not feeling motivated much right now, but i feel like i need to. so this may be short and im sure ill forget so much.
last month hazel seemed to have quite the attitude... i know most would say she always does. its really not true. she is just nervous and very observant around people. the last month was a lot worse though b/c tysons brother came to visit and my family did as well all at the same time. she began telling anyone NO who got near her and tried to say hi. this lasted probably a good 3 weeks. right into old settlers where we see so many people who say, 'ooooh my isn't she just a doll!!!' and hazel replies with 'NO!!!' at first i was so embarrassed and trying to correct her. after a few weeks i realized me making a big deal of it and in so many words telling her 'no', it was just happening more. so i stopped. i could tell people kinda judged that i was letting my kid be rude maybe, but i just apologized and said shes going through a scared phase. after all, as an SLP im happy she is communicating and thinking about things. new people are scary and at 1 1/2 she doesnt know if im leaving her with them or why they are at our house. when i stopped stressing about it, it stopped. its nice to be back to my little sweetie pie. and im still learning that its okay that shes shy, reluctant, and sensitive. hub said he was this same way as a kid. he turned out wonderful :)
other new things she is doing... well this is new, but i guess more advanced-singing. she sings soooo many songs. and has so many words right i cant believe it. for my bday in july i was so surprised when she chimed in with tyce to sing happy birthday and she did for him yesterday too. i hear her on the monitor in the morning singing A, B, C, D, E, F, G... then after that i think she starts singing twinkle twinkle. im so impressed. we really do not 'work' on things. tyson sings to her in the bathtub and we do other times but im sure most of it comes from daycare. im so happy she loves it there.
really in general her speech and language is fantastic. she says 3-5 word sentences and repeats anything you say... not always great. she amazes me with what she knows.
books, books, books. hazel loves books. she always has since a very young age. but lately, its ALL she wants to do. she has seriously not touched a toy in her toy basket in over a week. i know this sounds weird but tonight i was questioning if something was wrong. i mean its an obsession. all she wants to do is read! girlfriend, PLAY!!!!! i still feel like missing out on the exploratory stage around 6-12 months somewhat affected her play skills. she does pretend play which is advanced, but she doesnt like to play independently a lot and shes not getting into things and being creative with random things! (carrie, advice please) she would rather us be there with her showing her what to do. we try to give her opportunities to play on her own but it usually doesn't last too long... unless its with books :) but i know a bookworm is a good thing!
in the area of gross motor, haze has made a lot of improvements this past month. a few weeks ago i noticed the slip through (her arms raising up when you pick her up under her armpits) disappearing!! remember this should be gone after the first few months of life. honestly we kind of haven't been working on too much therapy wise b/c it didn't seem to help and i thought it would just always be that way. but i guess it just improved on its own suddenly! she still feels very heavy to carry but i do believe her core is improving. but of course when shes worn out shes less likely to help. but i have noticed recently she can lay back by putting her arms behind her, then down to her elbows, then all the way down. yay!!!! this is helping her to not fall back as much! relief!! also, her little toddler waddle has disappeared. she walks and runs like a big girl on a mission. its so cute to see, but shes growing into a little girl so fast!
finally, this week we decided to potty train. she was showing a lot of readiness signs so we went with it! she has been doing really well! on her first day to daycare after only 3 days of training she only had 1 accident and her teachers said it was their fault b/c they were busy. today she had more accidents at daycare but i think there were different teachers that maybe didnt know all the mommy tricks like her teacher yesterday. we will see how the next 3 days at home goes and hopefully when she returns to daycare next week things will go even better. i love when she goes potty she stands up and says 'yay big girl, hazie. daddys a boy. potty treat!' her little voice when she says 'big girl' is pretty much the cutest thing ive ever heard.
okay so wow i thought that would be short but i guess not. im sure there is a lot i left out but this is our almost 2 year old's update :)
last month hazel seemed to have quite the attitude... i know most would say she always does. its really not true. she is just nervous and very observant around people. the last month was a lot worse though b/c tysons brother came to visit and my family did as well all at the same time. she began telling anyone NO who got near her and tried to say hi. this lasted probably a good 3 weeks. right into old settlers where we see so many people who say, 'ooooh my isn't she just a doll!!!' and hazel replies with 'NO!!!' at first i was so embarrassed and trying to correct her. after a few weeks i realized me making a big deal of it and in so many words telling her 'no', it was just happening more. so i stopped. i could tell people kinda judged that i was letting my kid be rude maybe, but i just apologized and said shes going through a scared phase. after all, as an SLP im happy she is communicating and thinking about things. new people are scary and at 1 1/2 she doesnt know if im leaving her with them or why they are at our house. when i stopped stressing about it, it stopped. its nice to be back to my little sweetie pie. and im still learning that its okay that shes shy, reluctant, and sensitive. hub said he was this same way as a kid. he turned out wonderful :)
other new things she is doing... well this is new, but i guess more advanced-singing. she sings soooo many songs. and has so many words right i cant believe it. for my bday in july i was so surprised when she chimed in with tyce to sing happy birthday and she did for him yesterday too. i hear her on the monitor in the morning singing A, B, C, D, E, F, G... then after that i think she starts singing twinkle twinkle. im so impressed. we really do not 'work' on things. tyson sings to her in the bathtub and we do other times but im sure most of it comes from daycare. im so happy she loves it there.
really in general her speech and language is fantastic. she says 3-5 word sentences and repeats anything you say... not always great. she amazes me with what she knows.
books, books, books. hazel loves books. she always has since a very young age. but lately, its ALL she wants to do. she has seriously not touched a toy in her toy basket in over a week. i know this sounds weird but tonight i was questioning if something was wrong. i mean its an obsession. all she wants to do is read! girlfriend, PLAY!!!!! i still feel like missing out on the exploratory stage around 6-12 months somewhat affected her play skills. she does pretend play which is advanced, but she doesnt like to play independently a lot and shes not getting into things and being creative with random things! (carrie, advice please) she would rather us be there with her showing her what to do. we try to give her opportunities to play on her own but it usually doesn't last too long... unless its with books :) but i know a bookworm is a good thing!
in the area of gross motor, haze has made a lot of improvements this past month. a few weeks ago i noticed the slip through (her arms raising up when you pick her up under her armpits) disappearing!! remember this should be gone after the first few months of life. honestly we kind of haven't been working on too much therapy wise b/c it didn't seem to help and i thought it would just always be that way. but i guess it just improved on its own suddenly! she still feels very heavy to carry but i do believe her core is improving. but of course when shes worn out shes less likely to help. but i have noticed recently she can lay back by putting her arms behind her, then down to her elbows, then all the way down. yay!!!! this is helping her to not fall back as much! relief!! also, her little toddler waddle has disappeared. she walks and runs like a big girl on a mission. its so cute to see, but shes growing into a little girl so fast!
finally, this week we decided to potty train. she was showing a lot of readiness signs so we went with it! she has been doing really well! on her first day to daycare after only 3 days of training she only had 1 accident and her teachers said it was their fault b/c they were busy. today she had more accidents at daycare but i think there were different teachers that maybe didnt know all the mommy tricks like her teacher yesterday. we will see how the next 3 days at home goes and hopefully when she returns to daycare next week things will go even better. i love when she goes potty she stands up and says 'yay big girl, hazie. daddys a boy. potty treat!' her little voice when she says 'big girl' is pretty much the cutest thing ive ever heard.
okay so wow i thought that would be short but i guess not. im sure there is a lot i left out but this is our almost 2 year old's update :)
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