so we had our post op appt friday. everything checked out fine. and i was hoping they didnt get the chromosome tests back yet b/c i didnt want it to ruin our weekend. well they had came in that morning. the results were abnormal. there was an extra chromosome on chromosome 16. also known as a trisomy 16. from what i read, this is incompatible with life. most people miscarry within the first trimester. she said that there is no cause of this and that it just a random fluke. there is a 99% chance that this will not happen again. oooohh i remember when we had our first m/c and our chances were no higher than anyone else of having a m/c so it shouldnt happen again. well 3 more later, here we are!!! my dr was relieved to have an answer to the loss and i like answers too, but of course it makes me sad to think of a little baby with so many problems. so there is no more testing right now. just try again when we have given ourselves some time. her partner was the one who mentioned the bad eggs and bad sperm theory. she acted like no way that could be it. if we have another m/c i will be demanding some eggie and sperm testing. i was hoping the answer from this would have a cause that we could fix. she told me about her losses and teared up which made me feel more comfortable that she understands. she talked about how her and her husband were clinically depressed for a long time. its nice knowing my dr knows how her patients are feeling. i asked if we could do another d&c if i had another m/c to test again, but she said that they were very concerned about my bleeding with my surgery. she said her partner (who did the surgery b/c she was on vaca) was getting very worried about how much blood i was losing. thats why i got the 2 shots in the leg and the 4 pills up the butt. so she said no more d&c's, they wanna stay outta my uterus as much as possible. i didnt think of this while we were there, but tyson said he was worried about if i made it to giving birth to a child i would have the same bleeding problem. i am kinda nervous about that. yikes. soooo anyways back to the story... so i told her i didnt want her to tell me the sex of the baby then, but to write it down and put it in an envelope and i will read it later. so i get dressed and come out and i see an envelope with "male" wrote on the front of it. I was like "is this ours?" she took it away real fast and was like "oh shoot my brain isn't working. did you see what i wrote on there?" i for some reason said no. maybe i didnt want to break down in tears??? so she got a new envelope and put the paper on it and wrote my name on the front and we left. tyce said he didnt see it... i dont know how. but he said i could tell him. so we opened the envelope just to make sure, "male trisomy 16". so much for waiting til another day. i got my cries out then and pulled myself together for the amazing night we had ahead....
soo i wrote on here that i was taking tj away for the night for his bday. that was just in case he read my blog. i have been planning a surprise party for some time now. so this week my mom and i have been preparing all the food for the party and had everything out at the building thursday night. since i had my appt friday, my sis helped and set up everything and was there when people arrived. so we got home from our appt and i packed us a bag for our "surprise trip" and i killed time until i got the okay to bring him to the party. he was confused why we did just leave already and we had to wait around til after 6. i thought he probably knew what was going on, but was just playing along so my feelings werent hurt. so we left the house and then we were driving up to the party i had him open his card so he was looking down reading. then i said shoot i forgot something and turned in. halfway up the hill he recognized vehicles he knew and looked at me like "what the hell did you do." i could tell he was very surprised. we got out to a crowd of friends and family and one loud yell of "SURPRISE"! thanks chad!! then i brought tyson inside the building for a second surprise. he was checking out the food and decorations when someone hiding tapped him on the shoulder.... his mom flew in!!! he just looked at me and said "how did you pull all this off?!" i was crying, his mom was crying, and i think he was just stunned. so we just drank, ate, danced, played yard games, and gathered around the fire the rest of the night! it was the best party ever! my sweet hub absolutely loved it!! we have got to visit with family all weekend and it has just been the best. today my babe is 30!! we are having a wienie roast tonight at my grannys and more family time today.
happy birthday to the most truly amazing man i have ever known. i hope you enjoyed your birthday! you deserve it and more!! i love you more than anything!!
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